Why Is He Ignoring Me? 5 Reasons Why He Isn't Texting You Back

“Why Is He Ignoring Me?” 5 Reasons Why He Isn’t Texting You Back & What To Do

Why is he ignoring me

In this article you will learn:

  • Why he doesn’t reply, or send you any messages on his own initiative.
  • What to do when he ignores you.
  • The honest truth to your question, “why is he ignoring me?“.
  • How it’s possible that a guy who likes you can ignore you for days.
  • Why it’s a not smart idea to ask yourself, why he never texts you first.
  • What it means when a man says “he doesn’t have time.”

The truth to why he stopped texting you and is now ignoring you

You hardly ever get a message from him. And you wonder if this is because he thinks about you less. Or maybe because he doesn’t think of you at all anymore.

It’s very frustrating when he no longer shows an interest in you. You might be wondering why he’s pulling away. Especially if you like the guy. Then it’s very hard on you.

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That’s true whether this is a guy you’ve:

  • had a one night stand with
  • dated a few times
  • or had a relationship with

When he doesn’t send you anything on his own, you get the feeling that everything is very one-sided. And that of course, is very tough to deal with.

That’s why in this article, I’ll teach you what to do when he’s ignoring you.

I’ll also explain men’s thought processes regarding texting. And what you can do to get yourself a great guy.

But first a critical disclaimer…

Although you’ll be reading the most common reasons why men don’t reply or text you first, it’s still a bad idea to try and read his mind and what he’s thinking.

When you don’t have enough information to really know what he is up to… Imagining and picturing different scenarios in your head will only make it worse. And you’re still not going to be sure of what he is thinking.

So keep in mind that worrying about this is completely pointless, and just a waste of your energy.

So with that in mind, here are the 5 most common reasons why men suddenly ignore you.

Reason #1: He simply doesn’t like you that much

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Look.

Men are a little mean sometimes.

If you’re dating a man, and he no longer sends you messages on his own…

Then there’s already a chance your relationship is over.

Guys are not very friendly in that regard.

Not that there’s much we can do about it, as we wouldn’t recognize “kindness,” even if it would hit us straight in the face.

Men are just less empathetic than women

And as a result, we don’t always understand the consequences of our actions. And we often don’t know what to do in social situations.

For instance, when we don’t like a woman that much, and don’t feel like seeing her anymore.

In such a case, a guy can do several things:

He could tell her he doesn’t feel like dating her anymore, and that it’s over. But that means he has to deal with the consequences of his actions (a lot of emotions, and potential drama.)

And that’s something that men find hard to deal with, and therefore, despise it.

So how do they solve that?

By using the following strategy:

“I’m not going to text her first anymore. And later, I’ll completely stop responding to her. So sooner or later, she’ll get the message and stop trying.”

If a man doesn’t like you or feels that he is done with you, he will just stop texting you. It’s unkind and ice-cold, but that’s how rude men are.

But there’s one exception:

If a man doesn’t like you but finds you attractive…

Then there’s a chance that he will only text you when he wants to have sex with you.

So if you ask him how his day was for example, then he won’t respond.

But a few days later, then you might get a message from him where he’s asking you if you want to show up at his place at 11 pm, for a glass of wine and a movie.

Woman texting

And of course, you know what that means.

Be careful when guys send you messages like this. It’s very likely he’s a player and only uses you for sex.

Radio silence and then suddenly a booty call? That’s pretty obvious, right?

If you want to fool around with him or have a one-night stand, go ahead. But if you’re hoping to have a relationship with him, then responding to these kinds of requests should be the last thing you do.

Tell him this instead:

Sorry, I’m not that kind of girl. But you can take me to the park on Tuesday afternoon if you want ;)”

If you subtly explain to him that you won’t let him use you for sex, then he’ll soon get the message.

He might give it a few tries to see if he can change your mind. But if you stay strong in your beliefs, and keep telling him no, he’ll soon give up. Simply because there are plenty of women who are “easier” in his eyes. In his mind, sleeping with them “doesn’t require this much work“.

And that’s fine, because he’s better off breaking another woman’s heart, than yours.

Reason #2: He has met someone else

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Suppose you just started dating a nice guy. He’s handsome, strong, and intelligent.

You’ve been on a few romantic dates together, and texting each other every day:

  • On your first date, you had a drink and then went for a nice walk in the park.
  • On the 2nd date, you went to his house where you cooked a delicious meal together.
  • And on the next date, you spent the whole afternoon and evening together, and got to know each others passions. You really got the feeling that you were getting to know him and each other on a deeper level. And during the first and your 3rd date

All in all, you slowly became more and more attached to him.

Then suddenly, he stops texting you first, or worse, he doesn’t reply to your messages at all. And you can feel that something has changed.

You’re wondering: What happened? Where did he go?

Chances are you’re not the only one he’s dating

It’s very normal for men to date several women.

Until it gets serious with one of them, and he’s done with the rest. And instead of letting you know, he’s simply doing what I just described in Reason #1.

And just stops texting you.

Be careful if he suddenly replies when you suggest sharing a glass of wine in the evening. Because he may have met someone he likes better. But it won’t stop him from having a sex date.

But if you’re really into him, the question is whether you should really go along with this.

Reason #3: He’s busy

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Men have tunnel vision. If they’re focused on one important task, then everything else will disappear into the background.

As a result, they’re unavailable to the rest of the world unless it suits their mission.

You see, men can’t focus on several things at once. And their brains are mainly built to solve one specific problem (and to forget about the rest).

Unlike women, who can easily focus on several things simultaneously and make connections faster.

Suppose a man is busy at work because his boss has put him on a very challenging project. And he’s trying to make the best of it.

At a time like this, he simply doesn’t think about texting you…

Not because he isn’t attracted to you, or because he is seeing somebody else.

But simply because the problem he’s dealing with pushes everything else out of his mind.

In this case, he’ll realize after a few weeks that you haven’t heard from him, and then he will reach out to you.

And since he won’t understand that you’ve been waiting for him, he’ll act as if nothing is wrong.

You could explain to him that you thought he didn’t want to see you anymore. But I suggest you play it cool and continue where you left off.

And for bonus points, you can always ask him what happened to the project he was working so hard on.

Reason #4: He doesn’t have time to meet up

The Player is often unable to meet but doesn’t give a clear reason why

This one’s a little different from the busy man.

A busy guy might forget your existence for a while. Not because he doesn’t like you. But because the stress causes him to have tunnel vision.

The next male trait is strange and confuses many women.

When a guy doesn’t have time to meet, he won’t text you back simply because he doesn’t see the point. That’s when a guy can stop texting you for weeks.

He has the app to meet up and go on dates, not as a way to text with you

He uses it purely to set a date and time so he can see you in person.

But if his schedule doesn’t allow it, he just won’t be bothered with it. It’s simply of no use to him to reply to you before his calendar has cleared up.

Disclaimer: If a man says several times that he doesn’t have any time, then it’s likely he’s not that into you and is leading you on.

No man is so busy that he can’t take 15 minutes off to drink coffee with a woman he likes. So watch out for this.

Reason #5: He doesn’t text to be social

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Guys text just because we know women like it.

But we never do this ourselves. Not with our friends, not with our family and not with our girlfriend (if we can avoid it, of course).

At the same time, (most) men know that you enjoy it. And we don’t want to be a killjoy. So we play the game because we love you.

But it’s never with total conviction.

Simply because it’s not in a man’s nature to text for fun, and only if he likes a woman very much will he go along with it.

It all has to do with how men process emotions, and the communication differences between men and women.

  • Men feel more connected to someone when they’re doing something together.
  • Women like to talk and exchange information, and feel more connected that way.

He just doesn’t get it…

If you try to explain to him that you text to be social, he’ll nod understandingly.

But he doesn’t really get why you do it, only that you do it, and that you expect him to participate in it.

Conclusion

Now you know there are multiple reasons why men stop texting you back or even ignore you.

Some of them are warning signals. He might be dating other women. He might just not be interested.

But I hope that is not the case for you. And I hope the reason he doesn’t text you back as often as you’d like, is that he just doesn’t quite get how important it is for you.

My goal with this website, is to help you with advice and strategies to get a relationship with a guy who ‘understands’ this.

I teach you

  • How to avoid players and narcissists
  • How to find and get a relationship with your mr. Right
  • How to understand him and help him understand you

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Love,
Tim

PS: If you have a question about why a guy is not responding to your texts, leave a comment right below.

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Tim Veninga is the head coach of Change Him. In The Netherlands more than 155.000 women follow his advice. He has been featured in numerous Dutch media and magazines like Cosmopolitan and Glamour.
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