12 Steps To Make Him Miss You Like Crazy After A Breakup

How To Make Him Miss You Like Crazy After A Breakup – 12 Simple Steps

How to make him miss you

In this article you will learn:

  • How to make him miss you like crazy after a breakup and want you back.
  • How to increase your ex-husband’s or boyfriend’s desire for you so much that he can’t get you out of his mind.
  • The things you absolutely should NOT do when you want to get his attention.
  • How to get him back.
  • What dating coaches don’t tell you about their “get your ex back” courses.
  • …And much more.

What you should know about making a man miss you

Woman makes her ex miss herI know, I know.

If a man broke up with you, it’s a little scary. You don’t know what to do.

I understand that you’d like nothing more than to get back together with your man.

But in this article, I’m going to pull you back to reality for a minute and share with you the hard truth regarding that whole idea.

First of all, is there anything you can do to make him miss you, and get him to commit to the relationship again?


There are ways to make a man miss you and get him to want to be with you again

But they’re not what you think they are.

In fact, you’ve been lied to.

Dating coaches and women’s magazines are selling nonsense. And men will never contradict it because they consider it to be unmanly.

Here’s the thing:

Making a man long for you is both easier and more difficult than you could’ve imagined.

You will learn that in the 12 steps below.

I’m assuming it’s over between you and your ex, and that it is mainly up to you to save the relationship. So let’s get started.

Here are the 12 steps to make him miss you like crazy after a breakup:

Step #1: Realize that most break-ups are final

Break upDo you know what I really hate?

Dating coaches who ask you to pay for a “get your ex back” program.

I won’t post a link to these little crooks. But let me explain to you why I’m not a fan of this.

What these people don’t tell you is that the vast majority of break-ups are final.

Only in a tiny percentage of the cases will couples actually get back together

But they sell you on the idea that it will work every time.

And offer you a course with the motto “it will always work to get your ex back, in every possible situation.”

But this is statistically impossible, and I notice that in my inbox every day.

I often receive e-mails from women who are completely heartbroken because their partner just left them.

They went out of their way to get their man back. And that is very normal. Because if you love someone a lot, and this person disappears from your life, then you want to do everything to get him back.

Don’t forget all that emotional pressure…

Ranging from anger to sadness, and combined with an enormous longing desire. You can’t think logically about how best to handle the situation.
Here are some of the stories I hear on a regular basis:

  • One woman sent her ex husband 1000 texts (as a romantic gesture), but he doesn’t respond.
  • Another one thinks she’ll never find someone like her previous man again – and has posted this on her Facebook wall as well.
  • A third one witnessed her relationship fall apart over the last few months, even though they both did everything they could to recover.

I always have to tell those women there’s little chance they’ll get their men back. Not only because the above situations are utterly hopeless…

But even when the relationship ended on good terms, there is only a relatively small chance of getting back together

However, those women may then end up finding a dating coach who’s happy to tell them what they want to hear.

That it’s always possible to get your ex back“. No matter how bad the situation is, or how clearly he told you he doesn’t want to hear from you anymore.

Obviously, that’s not realistic at all. Because if I can’t do it already (having more than 12 years of experience in dating and relationships, and having successfully coached thousands of people), then how can those more inexperienced scammers do it?

Step #2: Understand that there is no such thing as a magic pill

Woman flirts with the manI can’t change your ex. And I can’t suddenly make him fall in love with you again. Anyone who says they can is a liar.

Especially if the relationship has routinely broken down and you’re now looking for a way to get back together with your boyfriend or husband. Then I have to disappoint you because then here’s very little you can do.

But in the next part of this article, I’m gonna teach you the things you can do to increase your chances of restoring the relationship.

But don’t misinterpret this as a simple way to get your ex back. Think of it as a way to increase the likelihood that your man will miss you again.

Are you with me?

Step #3: Make sure you exercise

Woman exercisesIn order to make sure your man will miss you, the first thing you have to do is to start feeling comfortable in your own skin again.

He fell in love with a strong and independent woman. Not some who spends her days eating ice cream on the couch.

Do you understand what I mean?

I can’t blame you if that’s how you’ve spent your time lately, though.  I have my own unhealthy ways of dealing with heartbreak.

But don’t tell this to anyone. To the rest of the world I pretend to be made of steel.

The tension you are feeling in your body is normal

But now you’ve got two choices of what you can do with all that built-up pressure.

You can either use it to become stronger, or to become weaker.

By exercising, you make sure you convert that stress into something positive.

And bring you one step closer to getting your ex to miss you.

How about doing this instead of sobbing:

  • Become the most positive woman on the planet. When you exercise you immediately feel better afterward and release that built-up pressure inside of you.
  • You focus your attention on something else for a while. It’s impossible to not think about him if you’re just sitting on the couch with a bowl of ice cream. But if you focus all your attention on working out, it’s a lot easier.
  • Working out makes you relaxed. You remove tension from your body and, as a result, you give out a more relaxed and positive attitude.
  • You’ll get in better shape, which will also boost your looks and confidence.
  • It also has lots of positive effects on your state of mind. It’s the only method, besides medication, that ensures that people with depression will recover.

Step #4: Focus on your social life

Woman taking time for herselfIn order for you to become the woman he once met, and for him to miss you, it’s important that you focus on your social life.

And in times of heartbreak, there’s a good chance you’ll feel lonely. Then it’s almost impossible to stay positive.

So avoid spending time alone and do this instead:

  • Strengthen your family bonds. Perhaps you haven’t seen your grandmother in three weeks. Did you know that family is one of the key factors to achieve happiness?
  • Spend time with your friends. Both the kind that gives you emotional support, and with the girlfriends that want to distract you by taking you out.
  • Flirt with men. There’s nothing wrong with checking out what’s out there, even if you want to get back together with your ex.

Step #5: Don’t try to change the mind of your ex

Woman try to call her exYou miss him. I totally understand that.

You ask yourself: “ Is he going to miss me? When? How can I make my man miss me more?” I understand that, too.

And you want him to miss you as much as you do.

But will you promise me one thing?

Can you try to NOT persuade your ex-boyfriend or husband? Not even in a moment of weakness?

Because whether or not it works, you’re always faced with a big problem.

There are two common ways women use when trying to change their boyfriend’s mind

Way #1: The rational way
This includes reasoning like “we’ve already been together for ten years“, or “you’re not throwing away what we’ve built together.”

Way #2: The emotional way
Here she goes completely overboard with her emotions, and exaggerates her feelings by saying things like: “I can’t live without you.” or “If you leave, I’ll kill myself.”

So pay attention now:

If you’re trying to persuade a man to miss you, there’s a good chance he won’t go along with it.

But even if you can change his mind by using either of the methods above, you’re still faced with an even bigger problem.

Here’s what happens if you can persuade him

At such a moment, he didn’t actually decide to be with you because he wanted to, or because he’s in love with you.

No, he’s doing it because you persuaded him it’s the right decision… or out of pity (if you chose the emotional way).

So this choice didn’t come from himself, at all.

And he will never really be happy going down this path.

Maybe your relationship will last another six months. Perhaps longer, or shorter. But then it will burn out like a candle and you’re back at square one.

Step #6: Give your ex the chance to miss you

Woman makes her ex miss herHe can only miss you when you’re not having any contact with him.
Here’s the thing…

Guys can only fall in love when they miss you.

I always recommend couples who are having a hard time to take a step back for a while. (It’s also sometimes good for couples who are doing great too, by the way.)

That feeling of missing each other is a much stronger bonding force than being close to each other all the time.

But I know how scary this sounds.

It feels like a huge risk to let someone go, hoping that he will come back to you.

But research shows that men get very affected by breakups and by no longer being in contact.

Mini breakups are common

It happens quite often that couples split up for a few weeks.

One person gets second thoughts about the relationship and breaks up. Then after three weeks, he or she’ll be like: “What have I done?” And he’ll call to make it up to their partner.

This happens on a regular basis. Maybe you’ve even done it yourself.

What you never want to do after a breakup

What almost never happens is the following:

  • He breaks up.
  • The woman sends him text messages every day to come back.
  • Or stands on his doorstep and puts love letters in his mailbox.
  • And they magically get back together

This never happens.

It’s a fairytale.

And if you do try this, you will ruin every opportunity you have of getting back together.

Because you just showed him that you don’t respect a no (and thus, don’t respect him).

This is disastrous since pumping up his ego is just one of the ways to make a man fall in love with you.

But that’s not all:

As a result, he’ll never reconsider his decision. And after a couple of weeks, he’ll get over it faster.

Here’s what you should do instead

  • Give him space to do his own thing, and therefore give him the chance to miss you
  • Don’t send him any more text messages
  • Don’t show up at his place

If you want a chance that he will come back to you, then make sure he’s not in your life anymore.

After you’ve done that, you can continue with the next step.

Step #7: Make him jealous

Woman dating other men

One of the most powerful ways you can do to make your man miss you like crazy is to make him jealous.

One simple way of doing that is by posting a picture on social media with another man.

This is a bonus tip, which I recommend you use only in rare situations.

It doesn’t hurt to let him know very subtly that you’re back on the market.

He will realize the consequences of his actions. And he’ll feel that you’re no longer in his life.

And take it from me, if he misses you at all, he’ll keep an eye on your social media.

Step #8: Use social media strategically

Woman using social media wiselyI already mentioned above that it’s good to make him jealous. For example, by posting a photo, or sharing a story with you and another man on Facebook or Instagram.

Of course, you shouldn’t overdo this. If you change your profile picture to a photo with another guy and update your relationship status to “in a relationship – with that new guy”, then that’s way too much.

One simple picture with a semi-friendly look with another man is enough

Also, don’t post continuously on social media, especially if you didn’t do that while you were in the relationship.

Because the more often he sees your new posts and messages, the less he’ll miss you.

By keeping him informed of what’s going on in your life, he feels like he’s still in touch with you. But when he doesn’t see any sign of life of you (except maybe that picture to make him jealous), he will start to wonder what you’re up to.

He wants to know how you’re doing and what’s going on. So he’ll think:

I don’t know how this breakup impacted her. Let’s find out.

If he’s reaching out to you; don’t respond

If he broke up with you, then now he has to pay for it. I know this is hard for you, but it will help you get back together with him, if that’s what you want.

The first step of achieving that, is him voluntarily reaching out to you. It shows that he’s still interested in you. It is of later concern to find out where he really stands.

I’ve written a whole section about how to do this effectively step-by-step in this article using the so-called ‘no contact rule’ in Step #2.

Step #9: Solve the problem

Solve the problem

Did he break up because he didn’t feel good in the relationship anymore? Or because he wanted something else in his life?

In both cases, you should take a closer look at what you can do about the situation.

Imagine he broke up with you because he thought he didn’t see you enough

In that case you can do your best to get him back, but he’ll never agree to it if he can’t see you more often. Even if you somehow manage to get back together again, the relationship won’t last very long.

But if he can’t see you more frequently because of his own schedule, then he doesn’t have his priorities straight or anything to complain about.

But if you were the person with a busy schedule, then you can choose to make more time for him so you can see each other more often and at better times.

Your goal is to make him go wild with desire

So he can realize how much he misses you and how tragic it is that you broke up.

And if you suggest that you can see each other more frequently this time, he’ll want to get back together without a doubt.

Step #10: Ask yourself, will this man make you happy?

Will this man make you happy?

Let’s stop here for a second.

You’re making a lot of effort for this man. But is he really the person you want to grow old with?

I know you’re very sad now since you broke up.

But if you look very rationally at how your time went together:

  1. Were you happy most of the time?
  2. Or was it mainly stress and misery?
  3. Could you do what you wanted in life?
  4. Or did he stop you from achieving your goals?

If you answer “no and no” to the second and fourth question, and you answered “yes” to the first and the third one – then you know it’s good to keep trying.

But if that’s not the case, stop telling yourself it’s the right thing to do. Even if you miss your ex. Even though you can’t imagine a life without him, or if you think you’ll never get out of this dark place without him.

Because then the truth is, he’ll never make you happy

And giving it another try will not only take up your time but also your peace of mind.

It only makes sense to try if you think he’s the one.

Step #11: Use your attractiveness

Woman taking care of herselfDo you know how men fall in love?

It has a lot to do with attraction, and one way to get your man to miss you like crazy is to use your feminine attractiveness. A man can’t simply fall in love with you if he doesn’t find you attractive. He can like you very much and want to go out with you a lot.

But if he doesn’t feel that pull, the relationship is doomed to fail

It might sound strange, but 9 out of 10 men will reconsider a relationship with you based on how attracted they are of you. (And not be very concerned with why you broke up in the first place.)

You might think that an intelligent man who still has feelings for you would ask you: “Hey, are you less busy now? Or are you still working 15 hours a day?”

But that’s not how it works in real life.

Because guys fall in love when they miss you

If he still has feelings for you and you walk past him dressed to kill, he will almost explode with desire.

He can’t help it. Even though he knows it’s not good for him. He can’t resist to not go along with you.

That’s why I want you to take a look at what men find attractive in a woman. In a relationship, men want peace, a clear role, respect, and good sex. And in terms of appearance, the eyes, youthfulness, buttocks, body mass, waist-hip ratio, and other things play a significant role.

But to make it even easier for you:

Become the woman he fell in love with, once again

Over the course of the relationship, you’ve both changed. You get more used to each other and are less concerned about seducing your partner.

You have to bring that back and be willing to do that before you plan on reaching out to him.

I don’t think I have to explain to you how to make subtle contact with him.

Only do this if he has already given you some attention and reached out to you. And at that moment, focus on showing him how beautiful you are.

And then:

Step #12: Find out what his feelings are

He can’t see the positive side of having a serious relationshipWhen you’re speaking with him again, and you show him how gorgeous you are, one thing is crucial.

Is it a situation where he never wants to get back with you, no matter what?

There will be situations where you can’t fix it

He might just be done with the whole relationship.

If this is the case and you seduce him, then you will only sleep with each other and then it’s going to be over. Or worse, he’ll use you for sex while your heart breaks again into a thousand pieces.

Don’t do that to yourself.

Before you even consider doing this:

Find out if he’d like to get back together with you in an ideal world. Don’t listen to what he says, but look at how he behaves.

You can also use my test to see if he’s in love with you.

But be careful. Your heart and mental state are at stake.

If you’re not sure about it, then don’t do it.

There are millions of great guys in your country.

It sounds very blunt, but you’ll find someone else.

You could say to yourself, “I just want to be with him.”

OK. But the chance that your heart will be broken is much bigger than the chance it will work out. And it might be smarter to walk away and leave it for what it is.

Now you know how to make him miss you

It’s not by persuading him but by doing the exact opposite.

I wish you the best of luck.

And don’t forget to let me know in the comments how it went.


(This article was published previously on my Dutch site, here)


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51 thoughts on “How To Make Him Miss You Like Crazy After A Breakup – 12 Simple Steps”

  1. I’m on a relationship break with my partner things got sour and he asked for space and I was so reluctant I kept thinking I was losing him and all I did was send him long paragraphs everyday literally begging for him to come back and he kept saying he needs a break so now I’ve decided that I’m actually going to do the opposite no more desperate me always there assuring him how I can’t leave without him. Time for change to actually make him realize he needs this as much as I do cause I know he loves.

    1. I only made one stupid mistake by talking bad behind my ex boyfriend’s back also is it just me ?or does other girls do it too.
      Would he come back ? If he is with someone new because im not looking too needy or desperate to get back with him.

      1. Thanks I love this but my ex want us to be close friends n we talk almost every day I know he still likes me but I don’t rely know wat this means even wen I try to avoid him wen it’s like 2 to 3 days he doesn’t hear from me he reaches out to me n we talk n joke n gist on phone for long.pls wat does this mean because it’s not easy been friends with someone u love. Pls am I on the rite track? Pls reply me thanks

        1. Hi Ese
          I know how you feel. That is how my ex said to me month ago, to be friends. What is that? You can’t be friends with someone you love. He is using you he just can’t let you go. There is someone else he loves but he is not sure about her. So he uses you as a shoulder to cry on. He knows you love him and you can do and agree with whatever he says. Be happy and find someone who respects you and is inlove you. Not someone who is your friends. You have feelings too this guys going to use you slowly. But all I can say is follow your heart and don’t be afraid to love again. Take care

        2. He wants to stay friends with you to keep you around while he sees what else is out there. Once you agree to being friends he still has a way into your life. I definitely wouldn’t do the trend thing.

        3. I’m in the same position as you it’s so difficult when you love them but it’s your decision , I’ve learnt that you could take that risk and be his friend and see him move on in life or cut him off completely and see if he comes back – either way being his friend WILL hurt you and if you love him and he is not with you it’s best to let go.

  2. Gave my man of 7 years a break, it was my decision. I’m not sure if this is what u want. so I decided a break.
    I am loving the concept of “no contact rule” . will be seeing how this goes.
    thanks Tim.

    1. My boyfriend broke up with me bc I was over reacting and he got mad and now I have alto sit here in missery

  3. I am from Philippines and had a boyfriend from Netherlands but we broke up 2 days ago. We are i long distance relationship now. I miss him but when i saw your article, it made me think not to persuade him. Instead, i will just give him time for himself. I hope it will help us. Thanks Tim 😊

  4. I just broke up recently,he told me we could be friends but I find that hard to do so thankfully I came across your article,it seems hard but if I can get back with him it’s definitely worth it

    1. I learnt something very important here am happy I appreciate your work..too upholding

      Thanks Tim

  5. He broke up with me 2 wks ago, after 2 years together, saying his feelings faded, there are other reasons too which I feel can be resolve now that I know the problem. Is it even harder to reattract him again when feelings have faded? When I asked before moving out if he will reconsider in the future, him being the most honest guy i have ever met said he doesnt know…..his decision has been killing me everyday….

    1. Reading this made me feel not alone thankyou for writing this – I hope your well and free from the toxicity of relationships

  6. I had breakup in Dec 2020 which was totally final.. he told me to move on…I tried to be away from him but since last few days. M missing him badly…I tried to contact him everywhere but he has blocked me..
    I Donn know..How can I bring him back..Plz any one help me… Please

  7. I broke up with my boyfriend because he got back with his wife and he is still asking me to stay but I can’t share a man please help!

    1. When a man is still married leave him alone period. It is sin to go after him. In God’s eyes he belongs to his wife not you regardless of any circumstances he told u or gives u. How would u feel if u were in her shoes? Block him from your life move on and find a single and honest man because if he’s done this to his wife he will do it to u one day too!

  8. From all the sites I’ve searched and read, this is one of the most rational ones. And I’m commenting now to let you all see how it will go, after doing the 12 Steps above. Quick brief: my guy best friend of 5 years broke up with me after 7 months of dating since July 2020. As you know, a month-turned-year of quarantine doesn’t happen every year. We were doing great prior to it, and he decided to court me during quarantine only as well, because he misses me so much and we often fight on video calls out of jealousy and clinginess(me) because i’m away from him, and i was always lonely so i tend to do reckless things when i’m left with my demons for too long. After a few weeks, I said yes, considering our foundation, and we constantly tried to made it work online. Which can be rough, especially if your love language is physical touch and (physical) quality time. We had the same love language, but we could only express it so much during this time. Quarantine kept extending, we made it work much longer, until poof. Everything just piled up for him. The fights and clinginess I’ve started with him just to distract myself for being contained in this toxic household for months. Of course we go out during our monthsary, but it was never easy for the both of us because we still live with our parents. We’re 21 but we’re Filipino, so it’s a culture thing lol anyway. He got fed up, he got used to our fights that it became his impression whenever he sees or talks to me. We actually hit rockbottom last November, but he kept giving me chances and stayed with me until I get better. But I never really proved anything to him. Fight after fight since November, I just apologize and acknowledge my mistake, and tell him and myself that I’ll grow up and change for the better. Now, after more than 4 months of tolerating me and loving me unconditionally, he grew tired and numb. When we broke up in person, he told me he doesn’t love me anymore, that he can’t feel anything anymore. Because he had to numb himself from the pain and toxicity that I overwhelmed him with. I needed to lose him to really realize and lose this toxic part of myself as well. So yeah, I’ll update you all once the steps are rationally done. It’s a win-win if I win his love back again at the same time become a stronger person ever he deserves. Until then, good luck 🙂

  9. He broke up me yesterday, ‘cause he told me he can’t handle to me anymore , I jumped the ebike ‘cause im so jealous and his being so insensitive he doesn’t even care ‘bout my feelings. I know that am being so paranoid. I love him tho. Want to get back to him.

    Will try this step..

  10. I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday and now I want him back..luckily I saw this and am going to try it and see how it goes

  11. Hey…he want something else in life and i shouldnt ask him for details cause he doesnt know, he doesnt love me anymore of course doesnt know how long,wants to be alone and be just friend..we were together 8,5years. One things which he knew was he loves me and when i was positive, dont ask same silly question like love me? forever together? u want a baby? Cause he started w this everytime like he wants. But when i started he said when i feel it i say it when no i dont say it.Never knew what he wants. Always want freedom but cant leave me cause loves me so much…Maybe 2years ago i want to break up w him cause again said idk what i want…but he want he stopped me i was thinking we deatl it.But still was so weird one day i was his queen like always and then maybe was in bad mood or a lot of work and i still ask same questions so he was mad and then he disnt want tell me nothing like love you or something like that. But when i let it be he start saying everything.We are not child anymore and not telling you 100 times a day I love like i used to do. it doesn’t mean I don’t feel that way. You have to believe me and feel it. I want to take you away from going crazy when I don’t tell you. I doesnt know it was true or what but true is am overthinker so maybe i created a problem before it started. And now cause of corona and my studying we didnt see eachother so often but it looks okay, but then i said he hurts me cause doesnt time for me and then he arrived and said he need to think about things and said pls believe me i love you, he started more inetersted about me for few days and then again i dont know if it was i sagain force him to tell me i love u or he had a lot of work he still i will call you later i will text you later…One night i call him and him was calling so long and i text him be happy w her.But the next day i found out he was calling w him sister from abroad. And then the answer on my question do you love me was And if i said no? i said him i want answer and he said idk and later yes and he was honesty and i said so get uz together and he said idk if its a good idea. T next days he just text me few words sometimes nothing just readed decline phone calls, come to visit family and didnt come to me…And then he come fot 10min said he maybe made decision he need to go but he came..and in train he said he made a decision..He sometimes answer on my question and then he just start ignore me and answered me only when i need for my school like a friend. Then i still ask something he still said the same things and finnaly he blocks me for 7days. I wish him for birthday 1.4. he said thank you thats all.Everything is so weird one said i feel it, then i say nothing cause you had exams.Idk really when he was honesty and when not i think he doesnt know too.He behaved so in love and suddenly switch and everything is different. Its so complicated. But my questions is how can he start miss me when he doesnt love me anymore?I cant go to city when he lives now cause my school is closed so we dont see eachoteh and he doesnt have social media only one app for texting.Pls tell me..when he is busy, or on bike, or running, he doesnt think about nothing so how can miss me? What i should to do? When is my chance bigger to get him? Try be friend or cut them off? Pls tell me am desperate.

    1. I feel you sister … just give him space … m were you are … it may be hard .. but just give him space … anything about him that would make you jealous.. just cut it off … somethings are not meant to be… if there is one thing i know… its that when a man wants you .. he will come for you .

  12. And i just forgot one question. How can someone stop love person, when he thinks about me am amazing, he is attracted to me, he likes how am smart(am studying medicine), how i behave (i dont drink,smoke am loyal and careful), how pretty i am, he thinks that it is the best thing that has come to his life and thanks me for everything. And that’s why it was also so difficult left me because I’m so amazing. The only thing he didn’t like about me was when I was too annoying, sometimes he was happy sometimes he had enough and when he was tired,mad, he said I should be normal. Few days before breakup he said when i didnt pick up the phone you didnt let me to sleep…The day of breakup he said i didnt make any mistake but he feel it like that. He was happy w me but want in his life something else. I asked him if he wants to fall in love again and he said she doesnt think about another relationship he will see what happen and then he text me he wants to be alone. Like always said i cant for it,but in my heart is you and freedom. Pls help me id know him when he doesnt love me.As him always said you are only mine. I will want to have sex with you even if we break up. And now he doesn’t want to because it would be harder for me and i will thought of something that is not like that. Am so scared..how can i go to school and see every places when we were 24/7 together i still was in his home and now i can see him w someone else. Doesnt matter because of sex or realtionship…am so angry that i can do nothing about it…I cant go for his hug and be safe and believe that everything wrong fix it because of he hug me like always. Pls help me..Be friend or Cut him? I think when he find out i want to try something on him he reject me idk…
    When he loves me he treated me like a queen i want him back so much…Am 23 and he(1.4.21) is 28. I hope you aswer me.

    1. Hey hannah … i understand were your coming from ..ave been here too … seeing places weve stayed together …. Laughed….played… gisted … eat together… but i didn’t cut him off .. we became friends… treated him as a friend… it was hard tho .. but i still did it… i gave my self opportunity with others although it wasn’t interesting.. i had to let him go … there are times i would want to cuddle or make out but i had to refrain or restrain myself from doing so … i didn’t change … you have to show him just about how lively you were when you two started going out … dont think too much about the past .. and will all become memories…. sadly but true … it takes time to heal but eventually it will … dont cut him off .. just give him space till you find yourself… making yourself happy is the best thing ever

  13. He didn’t answer what he was missing with me. When I asked him what another girl could give him, he said he doesn’t know. He said that it is not only that we have seen each other lately, but that it is so overall that it is not something specific. He did not give me any example. What is that overall when he still said to me the same things: you are perfect ..then why he stoped loving me when am perfect and he was glad to had me?I think i lose my mind because of it…but he ignores me when i ask something about us and give him rational solution and i dont want he block me again for 7days or longer

  14. He broke up with me because of trust issues and he said we can still be friends… honestly i also had my doubts about him but i still miss him like crazy …. I’d try this step of giving him space … it hurts tho like a lot

  15. My boyfriend and I broke up 2 weeks ago. Because he said that he doesn’t love me anymore. It’s hard for me take because he was so inlove with me in the beginning. He showed me how much he loved me. But changed drastically in the middle of our relationship. All the things that he did before was gone. I really don’t know why. And when I noticed the changes, I became so paranoid. And because of that he becomes mad more at me often and don’t want to understand me. So when he broke with me, I didn’t argue. I gave him the freedom he wants. But right now, I really miss him so much. And still hoping that he’ll miss me and maybe get us back together.

  16. My boyfriend and I broke up 6months ago but he calls once in awhile to check up on me n still says he loves and misses me but he has a girlfriend am a kind of confused
    But I think the no contact stuff will work
    What is my stake ??

  17. halo nyc but i don’t understand what should I do…he leave me befor 3 years..because of family problem…so he leave me then I try everything to he come back but because of his family he leave me again & again & again always block then unblcok me..playing game I alwayslove him want to marry…but he said he can’t go against his family…what family take desicion I do after I hear this I block him deleat his pictures …I broken from 3 years ican’t leave without him 😭😭I miss him what should I do please help me

  18. My bf is always saying other womens names and he denys it i think hes having an affair with his x thats gt his kids he is also specking to 1 of his xs that as hit him and told bf that he hit her he is also talking to my niece and my friends i confronted and he denyed he then said if i think that hes lieing go find some 1 else i dont nw wot to as i love him

  19. It’s been 5 months us being back and forth but after reading this article, I have a clear idea on that I should do. Thank you.

  20. Temitope Daramola

    We broke up a month ago but still I love him
    He post’s different ladies to make me jealous, still he view every of my pictures ,he don’t talk to me but still his friends told me to exercise patient that it is just a prank

  21. We broke up recently. We were in a long-distance relationship and he said the reason is the distance and nothing else. We had planned so many things together and were planning to see each other soon. I believed we can make it through the distance and I wanted him to be strong like me but I learned that I can’t force someone to do the things I want them to.
    I am now focusing on myself, my education and working on my professional life, and giving these parts of my life more attention.

  22. Hi Tim,
    I broke up with my boyfriend of 8 months last week. We are both in our mid 40’s and have said from the beginning we had never felt the kind of love and connection with anyone, ever. And that was true from our first date – we fell in love on our first date and started talking about a long future together from the very beginning.
    However, he’s forgetful and sometimes non-communicative – despite him being generally the best man ever. There were many episodes where he hurt me through careless actions and one last straw where I ended it, nicely enough.
    I left with the hope he would get his shit together and come back to me, bc I truly believe we are meant for each other. I know the love is there but I’m missing him terribly and don’t want to break no-contact. It’s been 1 week and 1 day. He sent me a couple of nice messages in the beginning but I didn’t respond bc it’s not what I need to hear…and he knows it, to move forward.
    Should I reach out or wait for him to do it?

  23. I broke up with my baby’s dad 2weeks ago and he called and said that he will be providing for both of us and we remain friends but then he said that I should give him time to reconsider his decision of leaving me ,,the problem was me because he found explicit texts from my ex but I never cheated and I know he knows that,,I miss him already but am giving him the space he deserves

    1. Hey Kayla,
      My boyfriend left me 2 days ago, he said he doesnt want to share me with my baby daddy. He knows we have a special relationship because we share a son. Which is pretty obvious but we dont chat unless its about our son. He wants to remain friends but I said I am all in or all out. I havent spoken to him since. We left on good terms and both love each other very much. Its only been just over a year we have been together. He messaged me today actually and told me he got the job he interviewed for. I have not replied as I was adviced by a colleague to ignore his messages. Plus this article confirmed it. I am hoping if I follow the steps mentioned above then he will miss me and change his mind. If its meant to be, he will come back. Thats what I believe.
      Message me if you need a friend to chat to megsul47@gmail.com.
      The pain is not forever but it will take a while.

  24. Me and my man are having a serious challenges that are making us not to end up together, several times I have asked him for breakup because we both knows we may not end up together because of the challenges but when I tries to avoid him he will be crying seriously that he can never be happy without me nd we keep going.
    So some few days back I noticed he have been avoiding me nd me too started avoiding him but the problem is that I can’t even do anything without him. Since the day i started avoiding him too am being depressed and I know he is not happy too wherever he is ryt now….
    I can’t get my self just like I have lost everything I have.
    I don’t know if I should text him please come back to me am dieing here at dis moment. The love we both share is very strong. I have been posting a heartbroken status on my social media and he has been viewing it without a response.

  25. I broke up with my boyfriend a week ago. I’m not happy about the decision because I miss him so much. But then again, I am happy because now we both realize what was wrongdoing in the relationship. We talk every single day, all day. Same as we did when we were together. The only thing that is different Is that we don’t see each other anymore and we don’t say we love eachother. He says that he doesn’t know if he is in love with me anymore, but he doesn’t want to lose me. He says he has hope for us but honestly I don’t know anymore because he doesn’t know if he’s in love. I’m so confused and lost. I know I should probably leave him alone for a while, but I’m afraid not talking to him will be a forever thing. Please help. I’ve never felt so broken and confused in my life. I need help.

  26. I really miss my ex. like crazy. he doesn’t miss me though, and has me blocked everywhere. absolutely everywhere. but i NEED him back. it’s been 3 months since the breakup, but he was incredible. he was smart, funny, outgoing, kind, and i loved him. i messed up. i broke up, and now he has moved on. we go to the same school, but not for long, cause we’re both leaving for college. i need him in my life. how?

  27. I was hurt when my boyfriend whom i love so much left me, i was totally heartbroken until i came across a blog where people testify about solution temple how they got help from his reunion love spell through his contact —- ( solution temple. info ) He also helped me cast a reunion love spell that bring back my Boyfriend that left me after he cheated on me.

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