13 Fun & Creative Ideas To Surprise Your Boyfriend/Husband

13 Romantic and Creative Ideas to Surprise Your Boyfriend or Husband

Romantic and Creative Ideas to Surprise Your Boyfriend or Husband

In this article you will learn:

  • How to surprise your boyfriend or husband with a simple idea that he’ll never forget.
  • Why it’s not necessary to use bouquets of flowers, skydiving jumps, or other intricate tricks to successfully surprise him.
  • The 3 things that completely blow a man’s mind when it comes to surprises. (Take advantage of this and your man will remember your surprise for years to come – even if he’s dating someone else then.)
  • The key factors you absolutely can’t forget in your surprise. This makes him fall in love with you even more and ensures that he won’t leave you.
  • And much more…

How to surprise your boyfriend or husband with a creative and romantic idea that he will absolutely love

How to surprise your boyfriend or husband with a creative and attentive idea that he will absolutely love

The 3/4 ways you can surprise him and how this makes him fall in love with you (even more)

  • Element 1: ‘Traumatic’ bonding/experience together
  • Element 2: Pleasure (sex, also car ride, massage etc)
  • Element 3: Seeing you as relationship material (nurturing)
  • (?)Something that makes him feel good about himself (thus associate that feeling with you)

Attention: some hype that what we’re going to teach here is a completely new way of surprising your boyfriend/husband.

Problem: We should explain why most women think off as surprises completely the wrong way. Effort doesn’t matter. It’s not what we are biologically programmed to like/look for. The way to do it is by connecting more/strengthening the relationship.

Solution: We explain the 3/4 ways/elements of a perfect surprise

Examples: 10-13 ideas

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Whatever the reason is why you want to try and happily surprise your man.

There doesn’t always have to be one. The important thing is that he doesn’t see it coming, right?

And then there are the typical moments, like his birthday and Valentine’s day. He knows something will happen, but he has to wait and see what it is.


It’s time to think about the best ideas to surprise your husband or boyfriend

It's time to think about the best surprise gifts and ideas for your husband or boyfriend

You want it to be better than anything his ex-girlfriends have ever done for him before.

But what exactly will that be? How can you come up with something so amazing that it’ll knock his socks off?

Your friends are all giving you great suggestions. But if you’re honest with yourself…

They don’t know what they’re talking about.

Because they don’t know what your husband or boyfriend likes. And you know for example that he hates candles and soggy things.

Even when you ask HIS friends, they don’t have a clue.

I’ve no idea,” they say.


That means you’ll have to come up with something yourself. Or send me an e-mail 😉

Just like Bianca did.

Bianca shared with me how she was stuck on how to surprise her husband. She had thought of everything there was to think of. But there wasn’t anything that seemed fitting or that he would like.

She’d done her best, she said. So now I could give it a shot.

And since I’m not the worst at it this kind of thing (it’s actually my job to give advice and Bianca was the 5938th this week).

I’ll explain to you in this article how to best surprise your husband or boyfriend.

Feel free to use them as birthday surprise ideas or for no reason at all.

I’m sure if you surprise him with one of these ideas, he’ll be forever grateful.

How can I be so sure?

Because I’ve coached thousands of men. That’s why.

I know what drives men, but also what they hate.

It may sound complicated, but it’s not.

Before I present the surprise ideas to you, let’s back up a little bit…

Men are very different from women in what they like and don’t like.

And it’s important to take that into account when you’re trying to amaze him with your gift.

First, let’s clear up the biggest misunderstanding when surprising a man:

The biggest misconception about surprising a man and what gifts men actually like

No, it doesn’t have to be “epic“. It doesn’t have to be something he talks about for years.

Men are actually very simple human beings:

Unlike women, we don’t care how much effort you’ve put into giving us a present.

We think it is especially important that we can do something with the gift. Either to enjoy it or it should make us feel better about ourselves.

If it falls into these two categories, then it’s great. If it doesn’t, it’s stupid.

And how much effort you’ve put into arranging the surprise doesn’t matter. At least, not so much that it’s worth focusing on it.

Men don’t look at how much effort you’ve put into it

If they see that you have gone out of your way for them, they’ll appreciate it. But it’s like a child who’s hungry.

You can give him an apple. And if he’s hungry, that’s fine. But if it was up to him he’d rather eat chocolate.

That just tastes a little sweeter.

The beauty of candy is that it’s produced much faster than an apple

For a candy bar, all you have to do is to add some sugar and other sweet ingredients together.

But to grow an apple on the other hand. Then you have to spend months with trees, seeds, pesticides at the right temperature and just wait for the seeds to grow.

And the end result is that the child likes that candy bar much better than the apple anyway.

So even if you arrange a present for him that is difficult to find or to realize, then you’re actually doing too much.

Sure, it’s nice. But it doesn’t necessarily make us like it more.

“But Tim, how is that possible? I think making an effort is wonderful”

Yes, I understand that. But you are a woman and he is not.

What real effort means to you

There’s a fundamental difference in mating rituals (yes, that’s the scientific term), between men and women.

A man shows through his efforts that he wants to invest emotionally in the relationship. That’s important to a woman because:

If a man isn’t emotionally invested in her, it means she’s not sure if he’ll stay with her when she gets pregnant.

And in prehistoric times, you then had a big problem.

That’s why a woman loves it when a man spends days putting together a gift for her. Or goes through an enormous amount of trouble buying something for her.

It’s stimulating for a woman when a man is emotionally invested and does his best for her…

And if you love the man, then you obviously hope he wants to stay with you as long as possible. And because he is doing his best for you, you know that to be true.

Men, on the other hand, are very different. We have two motives, which are related to the short term and the long term.

In the short term, we mainly want to experience things that we find pleasant and that makes us feel good about ourselves. By feeling good about ourselves I mean psychological pleasure. And by pleasant I mean physical pleasure.

These two are quite different

A man loves having sex with you because, the two – the physical and the mental – are combined:

When he has sex with you, he feels like a real man (if all goes well). At the same time, the sex itself is, of course, a very pleasant feeling.

But men, too, are unconsciously looking forward to the one partner with whom they can have great children with. And to determine whether that’s you, we also have some long-term desires.

We actively scan to see if you’re a good mother

Are you caring towards the people you love?

The way you treat your husband, partner or spouse shows what you would be like as a mother.

Are you an attentive mother or an ice queen?

Of course, a man wants the mother of his children to be very good at raising them. Who’s caring and can shower her children with love.

From an evolutionary standpoint, that also had an advantage

In the past men were too busy fighting off bears, hunting mammoths, and keeping the tribe safe from intruders.

We couldn’t keep an eye on the children all day.

Men are built on action and we don’t have the emotional intelligence to take good care of other people. No matter how small they are.

A woman, on the other hand, is naturally better at this. Because her sense of empathy and emotional understanding have been much further developed.

So then the question becomes whether the woman concerned has the personality to use her natural gifts to take care of her children.

If she instead uses that talent to cry all day watching soap operas and complain to us in the evening, then we unconsciously feel less attracted to her.

The idea behind it is that a woman like that is less attentive to us, and therefore less devoted to our children.

So keep it simple

You don’t have to do anything spectacular to surprise him.

Hanging a banner behind an airplane and luring him to some kind of field is not something that makes a man happy.

Sure, he likes it and it’s certainly a surprise he can’t ignore.

But if you want to give him a great surprise, you’ll have to do things differently.

Below you have 13 examples of how to surprise your man in an original way that he is going to love.

Feel free to just copy them.

In fact, do that.

Because I know he will love it and your relationship will become stronger because of it.

And as a result, this leads to more love in the world. So it’s for a good cause.

Idea #1: Go away for the weekend

Travel and holidays

There are things that make a man very happy in the short term. I’ll get to that in a minute.

But a weekend trip is very powerful if you want to strengthen the relationship between you and your partner.

It is not strange if you have been dating for a while and you have gotten into a rut. You have a certain order of doing things and you don’t deviate much from it.

That happens to everyone in a relationship.

A simple and very effective birthday surprise idea for your husband or boyfriend

This means you inevitably get bored with each other. The relationship becomes predictable and the passion disappears.

Try new things together

Even if it’s still fantastic between you, I would recommend that you keep trying new things.

And one of the best ways you can do that is by sharing new experiences together.

The moment someone takes you to do something you’ve never done before is always a bit exciting.

It doesn’t have to be so thrilling that you get completely terrified of it…

And here’s something men won’t admit at all. But it’s stimulating on a primitive level in the brain.

Our ancestors were used to always being in the same place for a long time

When they had to travel, it was out of necessity. For example, because the water or food in the residential area was running out. Therefore, traveling had a goal.

Making sure you had enough food or water to survive. This means our brain automatically expects something when you go to a new place.

So if you take your man or husband to another city where he hasn’t been before. This will be a little exciting for him.

Do you think he’ll admit that? Of course not. Men are made of steel, or so they think. So don’t count on him to talk about his feelings in any great detail.

Take a look at his behavior

Is he as confident as usual? Or is he a little tenser?

Even the most hardened and cold person feels a little rush to the head because he changes his surroundings. It’s a powerful weapon to make a man fall in love with you.

What happens when you go to that new place together is that he keeps an eye on you.

He likes you – more than just that – and wants to make sure you’re having a good time. And meantime, he’s having a good time himself.

This combination, in which he’s aware of his own pleasure and he constantly checks whether you feel good, ensures that you become more aware of each other and each other’s pleasures. You create a whirlpool of bliss.

And when you come home after the weekend it gets even better

Through the way your brain works, the new emotions will make you associate the sight of your partner with the pleasure you’ve had over the weekend. Every time you see each other, you remember what it felt like to do something new together.

This might sound a little crazy. But it’s a scientifically proven phenomenon.

It’s called “traumatic bonding“, and although we’re using a positive example here, it also works in a negative way.

How traumatic bonding works

Scientists had couples who had just met to watch two kinds of films. One group of dates watched a boring movie; the other group watched a scary horror movie.

One would expect that the couples who watched the horror movie would have less of a good time. Compared to spending some time together, watching a horror movie on a first date might seem less attractive.

But what did the researchers discover?

The opposite was true. The horror film caused tension in the couples, something that the boring film did not. The result was that the couples made contact with each other during the date and recognized the emotions together.

As a result, they felt more connected to each other afterward

And the funny thing is that, despite the negative emotions, they still had a positive impression of each other.

Scientists think this is because the couples were looking at an “external threat” together, and there wasn’t any tension between them. As a result, they trusted each other and were on the same side. The connection had become stronger.

Now, do I suggest you watch a horror movie on a weekend trip like this?

No. Of course not, I’d almost say. Going to a new city is, unconsciously, exciting enough. And I think it’s better to create strong feelings of pleasure than anything else.

I’m giving you this tip mainly because it helps your relationship in the long run.

It’s something that can improve the bond between you and your husband or boyfriend; more than a gift that takes a lot of effort. Men don’t really appreciate that. What do they appreciate? That’s what you’ll read in idea #2.

Idea #2: Stand on his doorstep wearing lingerie

Woman in lingerie, stockings and high heels

I know this sounds strange to you.

You can go through a lot of trouble for a man and do all kinds of crazy things to show him you love him.

But when you (for example on Valentine’s Day or on his birthday) are beautifully wrapped in a sexy lingerie set. And gorgeously wearing that under a long coat while you present yourself as a surprise in front of his doorstep with a bottle of wine…

If you use this idea to surprise your husband or boyfriend on his birthday or on another occasion…

Then he is going to think:

I want to marry this woman.”

Indeed, it’s a little strange how men work. But he will think it’s extremely thoughtful and exciting. And that’s important to keep the excitement.

This idea also has a hidden advantage

Did you know that men are biologically programmed to desire as many different women as possible?

Ouch… I know it’s not nice to hear. But Mother Nature is ruthless.

Every human being has been given certain motives to ensure that he or she brings as many children as possible into this world.

And since the stork doesn’t bring those babies, it means that people have to do it themselves.

If you remember what I mentioned earlier…

For you, as a woman, it’s crucial that your partner makes a real effort for you. And ensure that he doesn’t leave you once you’re pregnant.

So from an evolutionary standpoint, it is important for you that you have one loyal partner.

But your boyfriend or husband, on the other hand…

He can get several women pregnant one after the other. And nature is aware of that too.

He’s evolutionarily programmed to impregnate as many different women as possible.

It’s in his nature.

Because it gives him as many children as possible and ensures that his genes live on.

Well, that was the bad news.

Now you think like: “Oh, is there any good news?”

Yes, absolutely.


Men may have a tendency to chase after a variety of women. That doesn’t mean they’re all cheaters.

The reality is that if we find someone we like, we know how to control ourselves. Provided that we feel like she’s the one for us.

But that doesn’t mean that he no longer has that tendency, or that he still doesn’t feel that need.

How wonderful would it be, and how grateful would he be – if you could satisfy that need for him?

What if you could offer a solution to that problem so he can indulge in that deep evolutionary need for variation?

That’s what you achieve when wearing a lingerie set

By putting on an exciting lingerie set, it seems as if a new woman is standing at his doorstep.

His brain can’t distinguish between an outfit that’s changed, colored hair, and another woman.

This way you can satisfy his need for variation without involving another woman.

It has been scientifically proven that coloring your hair (for example, red), is a way to boost your sex life.

It’s because your husband unconsciously thinks there’s a new woman in his bed. But at the same time, he doesn’t feel guilty because it’s you.

And don’t get me wrong.

Your man would love to stay with you and is undoubtedly monogamous. But an exciting sexual experience is fun for everyone.

Idea #3: Buy him a new toy

Buy him a new toy

How do you surprise a little kid?

Exactly, toys.

Men are like little children. You wouldn’t think so, but there’s nothing better for a guy than to be able to play around with a new toy.

Have you noticed he can’t stay off his cell phone? Or that he always looks at watches? Then realize that these are probably his favorite toys.

Oh, and with “toy” I mean “toy“. Not “useful household appliances” such as “irons” and “vacuum cleaners“.

Idea #4: Cook him a nice meal

Woman cooking for manAs you’ve now learned… Your man is screening you. Purely to see if you’re a good mother.

And since you’re auditioning, it’s better to put your best foot forward.

The first thing you can’t mess up when you have a kid is to feed them when they’re hungry.

This is one of those great, 

Your man still remembers how he felt when he wanted sweets or crisps when he was a kid…  And it took forever to get them.

Unconsciously he’ll think it’s unacceptable if the same would happen to his own baby.

So make sure you get him lots of the things that he likes.

Surprise him with a dinner you prepare for him

Take care of him.

This means that if he is crazy about steak. Then you figure out how to prepare a delicious steak. And cook it just the way he likes it.

Just like a small child. He is not going to think about the trouble you had to go through to prepare this steak for him.

But when he puts that delicious meat in his mouth, he is going to think that you are absolutely amazing.

Wearing a sexy lingerie set and cooking something delicious for him are typical things that will always stay on a man’s mind.

Even though they’re very simple, they’re extremely effective ways to surprise your husband.

Homemade and inexpensive gift ideas for boyfriend/husband that work extremely well.

He probably won’t tell his friends. But if he does, they’ll be super jealous.

Idea #5: Unexpected Sex

Unexpected Sex

Suppose you go away with him for the weekend.

You’ve dressed up nicely. You’ve chosen a fascinating city. Maybe you’ll fly there.

Once you’ve arrived, you’ll see magnificent sights and taste new and delicious food.

And the place you’re staying at? It’s a beautiful hotel where the chandeliers and crystals are hanging from the ceiling shining elegantly.

You had a great time, all in all.

But what do you think your man, husband or spouse remembers most about that night?

The moment you took off your clothes…

It’s a new place, so it’s time for a new sexual experience.

If I can teach you something, it’s that giving men a new sexual experience helps a lot in every way.

If you want to surprise him, and make him think about it for a very long time, do this…

Have sex with him in a place or at a time when he least expects it.

When you take the initiative, he’ll experience it as a wonderful surprise.

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Enjoy it.

Idea #6: A spontaneous declaration of love

A spontaneous declaration of love

Although this isn’t enormously stimulating for men, it can be a nice variation.

Write something on a note of how much you love him and how attractive you think he is. And put the note in his bag.

Give him also a hint about what you’d like to do with him later that night.

Because, to get bonus points, you make the note a little sexual.

After all, you know that this stimulates men’s fantasies the most.

If you’d like to know if your man is in love with you, then check out this article.

Idea #7: Give him a great experience

Give him a great experience

Suppose your partner is a huge fan of a major sports team.

But he’s always going to watch the game at his friend’s house. And he’s never been to the stadium before.

Why not get him tickets? Especially when this is difficult and you normally don’t like football. Then it’s a perfect way to surprise him.

He’ll be surprised if you suddenly support him in his favorite hobby.

It’s simply an underrated and personalized gift for your boyfriend or husband

And you should look at it this way:

He will unconsciously register that if you have children at some point, you’ll support them in what they wish to do. Regardless of whether you think it’s a good idea.

That, too, is an attractive trait of a woman.

Here’s an article with 77 Couple Activities & Fun Things to Do With Your Man.

Idea #8: Buy a new lingerie set

Woman buying a new lingerie set to surprise her partnerI don’t have to explain this, do I?

As I mentioned to you earlier…

A man loves it when you surprise him by standing in front of his door wearing lingerie.

One of the best boyfriend birthday ideas there is…

But what if he undresses you. And suddenly to his surprise, you’re wearing a new lingerie set?

You can bet a guy would love that surprise, too.

Change your mood to surprise your husband

Suppose you were a little cranky and moody one night…

And then, when he starts making moves on you, you turn into the perfect bed partner. Playful, surrendering to him and longing for him.

He’ll interpret this as having magical powers. That by having sex with you, he can make you feel better again.

He won’t realize it, but every guy thinks this is very flattering.

A simple trick that gives him more self-confidence

I heard about this trick from a friend who used it with her boyfriend a couple of times.

And his self-confidence in bed increased tremendously. Simply because he got the idea that his girlfriend was getting happier from having sex with him.

That’s how simple men are:

“She’s cranky > I hit on her > she acts like the sexiest and most attractive woman ever > I’m the greatest man on earth.”

He’ll think it was to his credit and it won’t even cross his mind that you were pretending.

Idea #9: Give him a massage

Woman massaging a manWhen men ask a woman for advice on how to surprise their girlfriend, it’s normally “a massage“.

And, of course, it’s very nice to receive a massage as a woman.

But don’t forget the men.

If you know what he likes, and you can give him love and attention in this way, a massage is a wonderful method.

The most important thing is that he enjoys it. And that you focus on what feels good to him.

When you unexpectedly give him a massage, he’ll experience you as loving and caring. Given that you can see what he likes when messaging him.

And if you don’t know that yet, it’s a matter of trying things out and paying attention to his reaction in real-time when you are massaging him.

Your husband/partner or spouse will be grateful.

Idea #10: Breakfast in bed

Woman bringing him breakfast in bedAnd it doesn’t even have to be breakfast. Just bring him food after sex.

Your husband just delivered a physical performance. (At least, I hope so for your sake.)

He could use a nice meal to regain his strength.

Whether you do this by bringing him breakfast in bed, or give him a great dinner in the evening doesn’t really matter.

This isn’t necessarily something you can only do on his birthday or Valentine’s Day

Just like the other tips I’ve mentioned.

No, you can totally do this at other times. Just to show that you appreciate your man.

The surprise then lies in the fact you don’t do it every time. And that he never knows when you’ll make your thoughtful gesture again.

In doing so, he doesn’t know exactly where he has you. So when something positive does happen, he really appreciates it.

But back to food in bed.

Is there a food that makes him feel stronger?

Then give him that after sex. And you’ll notice that it feels a lot more intimate to him.

Idea #11: A ride in a sports car

A ride in a sports car

This is a real surprise for his birthday – or if you want to really blow him away.

A lot of men dream of toys they can’t afford. These are often cars. And whether it’s a Porsche or a Maserati, they keep dreaming that they will someday own one.

This is one of those creative gifts that men just love

And that may be the case. But why not surprise your husband or spouse by letting him drive one as a gift?

For a day.”

There are places where you can rent a luxury sports car for an afternoon or a whole day.

It doesn’t even cost that much. And during that time you can do whatever you want

Can’t your partner stop talking about a certain type of car? Then the easiest way to go about it is to rent that exact one for a day.

So he can just drive it around and enjoy the experience of what it’s like.

The father of a friend of mine used to occasionally visit a showroom for expensive car brands. Just to test-drive his favorite cars.

Obviously, that’s not quite the best way to surprise your man.

But it does show how obsessed men can be with toys, no matter how old…

So do him a favor by surprising him with a ride in his favorite car.

Idea #12: A new trick in bed

Man blindfolding and handcuffing a womanAs you’re aware, men are programmed to desire variety in bed.

Curious to know what men secretly want in bed, and how to make him addicted to you? Then read this article.

This is mainly about sex with different women. But that is not the only thing.

If you can show him you can do “a new trick“, then that’s great for a guy.

It’s like he is having sex with a new woman.

Especially if you’ve said before that “you’d never do that“.

If it does happen then, and he likes it, then he does not know what he is experiencing.

In summary, anything that has anything to do with sex and respects his need for variation is great for a man.

Now you have a lot of proven ideas to surprise your boyfriend or husband the best

Let me know in the comments below what you decided to give him, and how happily surprised he got.



Tim Veninga

Tim Veninga

Tim Veninga is the head coach of Change Him. In The Netherlands more than 155.000 women follow his advice. He has been featured in numerous Dutch media and magazines like Cosmopolitan and Glamour.
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