He does not consider my feelings or consult me when he makes big decisions.

He is impossible to reach for periods at a time or ignores me.

I sometimes feel he is a different person to outsiders than he is to me.

He is in friendly contact with other women and claims it's innocent.

I have the feeling he does not approve of me pursuing activities that don't involve him.

He says I ask too much from him (time, attention, commitment, etcetera).

Others have warned me about him (your family, friends or people he used to know).

I feel like I put in more into the relationship than he does.

He threatens with divorce or break-up during arguments.

I have caught him lying about innocent things.

I have caught him lying about big things.

He has had a lot of relationships in the past.

He often speaks badly about others.

He is dealing with mental health issues and/or addiction (or has in the past).